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  1. S T A R T L I N G | and that is just the young people we know about - what about the ones that go under the radar who might struggle with low level symptoms that gone undealt with develop into something more serious. Talking at the Healthy Schools Network Conference in Leicester there are lots of stressors for this age group from peer pressure, exams, academic pressure, relationships, dealing with multiple transitions - puberty, moves between educational and employment facilities and working out who they are in relation to their environment, the people around them and wider society. #mentalhealth#mentalwellbeing #wellbeing #wellness#healthymind #healthymindhealthybody #health#healthy #mind #mindfulness #mum#mothersofinstagram #healthylifestyle #the5sensestoolkit #lifestyle#dadsofinstagram #childhealth#mentalhealthawareness #depression#wednesday
  2. I S T H E R E S U C H T H I N G | as perfect? I lose count of the number of people I see who strive for a perfection that they believe exists. Whether it is being the perfect partner, looking flawless, being the perfect homebird or academically and professionally being at the top of their game. Now there is nothing wrong with ambition or being motivated to do or be these things but wanting to be completely infallible, that’s different. The latter often leads to constant self scrutiny, burning the candle at both ends, not being self-aware of your limitations and may impact our self esteem or self worth possibly affecting our mood in the process. So at what cost are we vying for perfection if we are defining our self worth and self esteem by what we perceive others want or expect of us? What is your definition of perfection? Does it hold true to a family member, a friend or the boy/girl next door? And another important point to consider is why you want to be perfect? I guarantee the answer to this question lies in what you perceive society or others expect of you. Accept what your limitations are. Accept that there will be some things you smash in life and others you won’t; but the latter we learn from. Ultimately, we are all human. We are all fallible. The moment you accept that, a pressure lifts from your shoulder, that weight of expectation. #nosuchthingasperfect #perfect #mentalhealth#mentalwellbeing #wellbeing #wellness#healthymind #healthymindhealthybody #health#healthy #mind #mindfulness #mum#mothersofinstagram #healthylifestyle #the5sensestoolkit #lifestyle#dadsofinstagram #childhealth#mentalhealthawareness #depression#feelingdown #the5sensesplan #tuesday #tuesdaythoughts
  3. P S Y C H I A T R I S T | what image do you conjure up when you hear the word? This has to be hands down one of the biggest myths about my job and one of the common misconceptions about our practice. So what's the truth? What do I actually do? Let's start this journey from the beginning. I completed a 5 year undergraduate degree in Medicine between 2003-2008. In 2008, a freshly qualified doctor I spent the first couple of years as all junior doctors do rotating round the various subspecialties from Medicine, Surgery, GP and even got an opportunity to do a bit of Psychiatry within that. I then enjoyed the specialty so much so that I decided to apply for a specialty training programme, this means that I purely trained in Psychiatry from that point onwards developing experience from children right through to older age. 8 years of that and a toddler later (not a compulsory part of training!) I am now a Consultant Psychiatrist with particular experience in the mental health of Children and Young People. I see young people and their families in clinic most days (but may also see them at home, at school in A&E perhaps even in police cells) I assess and treat (not always with medication but will often use psychological approaches including family work!) a whole host of conditions from depression, anxiety, self-harm, suicidal thoughts, eating disorders, psychosis, PTSD, grief, ADHD and Autism to name but a few. With 75% of mental health conditions starting before the age of 24, I feel the work I do is critical to reduce the impact on later life. I can only make a small difference with the people i see in clinic so set up this platform and wrote a book to help reach people on a wider level and make RELIABLE, evidence based mental health advice more accessible for everyone and not just another forgotten hashtag which means I've got to do some pretty cool things along the way.#mentalhealth#mentalwellbeing #wellbeing #wellness#healthymind #healthymindhealthybody #health#healthy #mind #mindfulness #mum#mothersofinstagram #healthylifestyle #lifestyle#dadsofinstagram #childhealth#mentalhealthawareness #depression#feelingdown #theblues #mondaymotivation #monday
  4. E V E N T | Excited to join @tallyrye on Sat 6th April as part of her Best Me Seasonal Series events. Join us as @tallyrye starts things off with a workout, followed by a seasonal 2 course brunch by @cerikitchen and then a mental wellbeing workshop by yours truly @themindmedic WHEN? April 6th TIME? 10am - 2pm WHERE? @benkandbo To book tickets @replenishyou swipe up in my stories. Hope you can join us. #replenishyou #healthymind #health #healthy #wellbeing #wellness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalwellbeing #lifestyle #womenshealth #healthylifestyle #healthymindhealthybody #friday #fridaymotivation
  5. O U T O F C O N T R O L | I lose count the number of times I see a young person share that they have been actively encouraged and spurred on to lose weight through content they have accessed on social media both directly and indirectly. Whilst social media giants may have made some waves in shutting down certain sites or rendering certain hash tags redundant, where there is a will there is a way and people are simply using secret hashtags to access this damaging content. And the dreaded algorithm means that even if they are not able to access their hashtag per se, by the very nature of what they are searching online, their social media feeds automatically generate a highlight reel of triggering content. Seems we have a long way to go and with headlines like this becoming increasingly common, never has there been more a sense of urgency. #socialmedia #eatingdisorderawareness #eatingdisorder #healthymind #health #healthy #wellbeing #wellness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalwellbeing #lifestyle #childmentalhealth #healthylifestyle #healthymindhealthybody #childhealth #mumsofinsta #dadsofinstagram #parentingishard #teacher #thursday #thursdaymorning
  6. M Y T H B U S T I N G | thanks to @drmikethe2nd for capturing this footage from a packed out @lululemonuk event this evening. Myself and the panel of lovely ladies @drzoewilliams @anjalimahto @gynaegeek guided by the wonderful @dr.chris.george covered everything from does the pill cause you to gain weight, does stress cause acne, views on natural conception and is there a role for food in treating depression...and so much more. Thanks to a wonderfully engaging and interactive audience! #healthymind #health #healthy #wellbeing #wellness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalwellbeing #lifestyle #lululemon #healthylifestyle #healthymindhealthybody #tuesday #tuesdaythoughts
  7. T O N I G H T | London Bound for this exciting panel event with these wonderful ladies and fellow medics @drzoewilliams @anjalimahto @gynaegeek hosted by @dr.chris.george talking about the science behind wellness covering general health, lifestyle, skin, women’s health and mental health @lululemonuk @lululemon Have you ever wondered if the health advice you’ve been given online is correct? Wellness is confusing and constantly changing. Every day, we’re bombarded with influencer advice, latest products and programs through social media. The problem? Most often, there is absolutely no proof behind these statements, or, these online personalities are not qualified. An evening of evidence, the advice you’ve always wanted to know and opportunities to dispel wellness fake news along the way. For those who weren’t lucky enough to bag tickets I will try take you with me along the way!#healthymind #health #healthy #wellbeing #wellness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalwellbeing #lifestyle #lululemon #healthylifestyle #healthymindhealthybody #tuesday #tuesdaythoughts
  8. S E T B O U N D A R I E S | social media -a blessing and a curse. I regularly hear about the negative impact that social media has to play on someone's mental health. I routinely see people who describe how scrolling through their social media feed has at some point triggered thoughts of inadequacy and fuelled low self worth. Viewing 'perfect life' after 'perfect life' led them to question the value of their own. It can leave us vulnerable to ‘trolls’. Treat online ‘friendships’ or ‘follows’ as you would real life ones. Cull those that don’t make you feel good.We are all in control of our own feed, the curate our own content. Social media only ever allows a snapshot of someone's life and the result, we only showcase the positives (that dreaded highlight reel). Continuing to follow such accounts will only confound those feelings. The solution? 1️⃣Unfollow those accounts that lead to you questioning your self worth or value. It is one thing to be inspired and motivated by an account and its content but quite another to feel intimidated and unworthy. 2️⃣Stop the mindless scrolling. You know the times when your watching TV, shovelling your dinner down? Instead schedule in your social media time as bursts throughout the day. 3️⃣ Avoid the social media wake up alarm. Stop reaching for your phone and scrolling through your socials as soon as you get up. Chances are that if you come across an image or caption that makes you feel inadequate first thing in the morning, it will set the tone for the rest of your day. Instead? Do something positive for yourself when you first get up. Treat yourself to a decent breakfast, a nice coffee, take your time to get ready unplugged.4️⃣ Still struggling? Think about taking an extended social media holiday.Delete the apps from your phone to avoid temptation or temporarily inactivate accounts. #mentalhealth #mentalwellness #mentalwellbeing #mentalhealthawareness #healthymind #mum #dad #womenshealth #menshealth #childhealth #healthymindhealthybody #wellness #motherhood #fatherhood #mumlife #dadsofinstagram #healthblog #healthymind #mind #healthy #lifestyle #wellbeing #socialmediabreak #socialmedia #scrollfree #monday #mondaymood
  9. M A L E M E N T A L H E A L T H | Denial, anger, the ‘if-only’s’, despair, the ‘but he had it all’, the holding others to account, guilt...just some of the reactions we have had in the last 24hrs since the incredibly tragic news that Mike Thalassitis took his own life. Indeed this is often the fallout from truly tragic circumstances; it can be difficult to make sense of how someone could have been in the throes of such despair that they felt there was no other option but to end it, engulfed by a dark fog that they could not bring themselves to talk to their nearest and dearest and in the depths of hopelessness that having a future was no option. Such is the power and fragility of our mental health. A simple ‘how are you’ is bandied around conversation day to day but how often do we truly listen to the response that is given. Do we search around for other cues and clues in someone’s behaviour that might indicate they are struggling. Last year, in amidst headlines reporting that self harm and suicide in young people was at an all time high, I sat down with my friend and Clinical Psychologist @foodandpsych and set about to develop a resource on self harm and suicide. The result? An hour long podcast covering causes, communication and getting help for yourself and others. I urge you to set aside some time to listen. I have linked the episode to my stories. A difficult but important listen. #malementalhealth #mentalhealth #healthymind #mentalwellbeing #suicide #suicideprevention #mind #sunday #sundaynight
  10. S L E E P T I G H T | this #worldsleepday it's true that a good night's sleep can mask a multitude of sins. Poor sleep is one of the most common complaints that I see in clinic; from the difficulty getting off to sleep, to the waking up 1,2,3 times in the night to the dreaded 5am insomnia. Often lack of sleep can mimic symptoms of clinical mental health conditions, low mood, irritability, lacking in energy, difficulty concentrating, sound familiar (depression). My top tips to getting some shut eye? First rule is being consistent! Don't expect to undo years of poor sleep hygiene in one night. You need to practice the steps below every night for several weeks, if not months before you wreak the benefits. I'm not promising in this technological age it is going to be easy but the pay off is huge. 1️⃣ Set yourself a regular bedtime and wake up time and stick to it. Keep your timings the same on the weekend it at all possible. Late nights and midday lie ins on a weekend can undo all the hard work we put into the week. The result? We are constantly playing catch up! 2️⃣ Have your last caffeinated drink no later than 1pm; 2 at a push. That includes teas, coffees and fizzy pop. Switch to decaf alternatives thereafter 3️⃣ Set yourself a screen curfew. An hour before bed unplug yourself from all screens, phones, tablets, laptops and TVs. Make sure you introduce a screen ban in the bedroom 4️⃣ 30mins-1hr before bed curl up with a book, a magazine or meditate. Give your brain the cues that it is wind down time before bed 5️⃣ Exercise; preferably not too close to bed as this can be counterproductive but exercise is proven to help sleep. 6️⃣ Make sure you expose yourself to as much daylight in the day as you can. Sounds obvious but this is crucial for our circadian rhythm, that internal body clock that regulates our sleep/wake cycles. Happy 😴 #sleepwell #sleep #cantsleepwontsleep #cantsleep #exercise #movemore #mentalhealth #mentalwellbeing #wellbeing #wellness #healthymind #healthymindhealthybody #health #healthy #mind #mindfulness #mum #mothersofinstagram #healthylifestyle #lifestyle #childhealth #mentalhealthawareness #depression #feelingdown #gym #friday
  11. E V E N T | excited to announce that I will be at this year’s @womenshealthuk @hearstliveuk event. It is a 3 day event! You can catch me on the Saturday where I will be on no less than 2 panels talking all things mental well-being from our own, to looking after our future generations!Swipe up for tickets in my stories and I look forward to seeing as many of you there. #womenshealth #mentalhealth #mentalwellbeing #wellbeing #wellness #healthymind #healthymindhealthybody #health #healthy #mind #healthylifestyle #lifestyle #mentalhealthawareness #mindfulness #friday #fridaymood
  12. P I C K U P | this month’s @womenshealthuk where Ele Cushing shares her heart wrenching account of experiencing post-partum psychosis after giving birth. As usual, I talk about what exactly that is in my accompanying expert column. #postpartumpsychosis #maternalmentalhealth #womenshealth #mentalhealth #mentalwellbeing #wellbeing #wellness #healthymind #healthymindhealthybody #health #healthy #mind #healthylifestyle #lifestyle #mentalhealthawareness #thursday #thursdaythoughts
  13. I N S E R T A D J E C T I V E | how often do you start a sentence with this, whether out loud or internally? I'm not as pretty/buff/smart/slim/ripped as them. How often do you compare yourself with someone on the gram or on real life (IRL)? Every month? How about every week? Or is it more realistically, every day? When do your comparisons start and more importantly where do you draw the line? Would you believe most people I see in clinic start their comparisons within seconds of waking up regardless of age? The inevitable reach for the phone, the checking into your various social media handles and the dreaded scroll of doom can immediately conjure up feelings of inadequacy. Why don't I look like that? Their kitchen is nicer than mine? They seem happier than I do? Their kids are better behaved than mine? It can then be difficult to shake those feelings off. You are weighed down by them through the day. You dredge them back up whenever you reach for your phone and twist the knife even harder. You draw comparisons IRL, in the classroom, at work, down the gym and on your holidays. Is it any wonder that it affects our self esteem and self-worth and in some cases even our mood and anxiety levels? Time to take 🎬. A simple exercise I get people I see in clinic to do is to first record how much of a problem it is. Set up a notes section on your phone, divide it into 2 sections and tally up how many times in the day (within a 12hr period, 7-7) you draw a comparison, however big or small both IRL and online. The results could surprise you; if you are feeling brave post your number below this post. Once you recognise it as a problem, then comes the part where you do something about it. I will share a strategy that I use in a post to follow #mentalhealth #mentalwellbeing #wellbeing #wellness #healthymind #healthymindhealthybody #health #healthy #mind #mindfulness #healthylifestyle #lifestyle #childhealth #mentalhealthawareness #the5sensestoolkit #the5sensesplan #tuesday #tuesdaymotivation
  14. M O T I V A T I O N | how many of us are struggle with our energy and motivation levels after a week out of the rat race? I know I do. A week off to recharge quickly get undone. But what can you do to make the return to normality a little easier? Think 5 SENSES. 1️⃣ SEE - create a schedule. Much like you would with a college or work timetable, plan your day right down to the last detail. Draw out your work commitments, pencil in catch ups with friends. Arrange to SEE people whether it is for a morning workout (joint workouts with a friend may be just the ticket when motivation is low) or grabbing a coffee with a work colleague before the start of the day. 2️⃣ HEAR - I know my 1hr commute to work can feel a drag but using it as an opportunity to catch up with a friend or family member really does help lift my mood for the day ahead or helps me unwind after a rough one. I also love a good podcast! 3️⃣ TASTE - I have found unless I prep my meals the night before, I can often forgo breakfast or grab something on the go. Setting aside some time and making a real occasion out of meal times is important. Delays in meal times or forgetting about them altogether can wreak havoc on our mood and energy levels. 4️⃣ TOUCH - move more. Again the pull of the gym or our outdoors workout may not feel as strong but it is important to keep active during the next few months. It may be a case of switching up your usual routine, gym workouts replaced with at home, solo workouts replaced with classes or partner up. Moving more will optimise your mood, increase self esteem, motivation, energy levels and even help with sleep. 5️⃣ SMELL - my final piece of advice is to smell the bull**** don't be fooled by other people's highlight reels. If it seems too good to be true it normally is. Sweet smell of success anyone? Make sure you set yourself small achievable goals regularly. Having a goal to work towards can help us focus & keep us motivated. #mentalhealth #mentalwellbeing #lifestyle #healthylifestyle #wellbeing #wellness #healthymind #healthymindhealthybody #monday
  15. T I M E O U T | this week away has taught me the importance of switching off regularly whether it is putting the phone down or sliding the laptop away a little earlier each day or taking a 24hr detox once in the week. Just one of two photos I have taken this entire trip. My family and friends will know it is the one week where I am ‘unreachable’. Our phones take up permanent resident in the hotel safe. If they are out with us, they are in flight mode. I would be lying if I said it wasn’t difficult to start off with. I rely on my phone for my clinical work, taking calls from colleagues both in and out of working hours when I am oncall, picking up emails again ‘day job’ related and @themindmedic related. An essential that can quickly feel like the bane of my life. Taking some time out to disconnect, from the anticipation of an incoming call, message and email and to avoid the lull of the mindless scroll has been truly liberating. Ready to tackle the return to work next week, a slightly more rejuvenated version of myself. #healthymind #health #healthy #wellbeing #wellness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalwellbeing #lifestyle #womenshealth #healthylifestyle #healthymindhealthybody #digitaldetox #switchoff #unwind #family #saturday #saturdaymorning
  16. W O U LD Y O U I R L | i am always dumbfounded by the sheer number of people who continue to get body shamed online. From media articles, to forums, to comments under Instagram or Facebook posts. Comments for the sake of being hurtful and derogatory. I have seen the very real impact that these comments can have whether it is from a ‘friend’, a peer at school, college or work or someone who you have never met who continues to troll you, to bring you down until you relent. More often than not the troll has no real sense and probably doesn’t care that anything from one single comment to a barrage can spiral someone into a sea of self doubt and hopelessness, low mood and anxiety that can persist into depression or an anxiety disorder. It may lead to self harming, possibly even suicidal thoughts. If the comments are directed at body weight and shape it may lead to restriction, over-exercising and other compensatory behaviours to keep weight down which may lead on to be development of disordered eating or an eating disorders. This has got me thinking, naturally as I am away surrounded by all shapes and sizes. Would these trolls say this IN REAL LIFE. More often than not they probably wouldn’t? Has social media created an army of cowardly keyboard warriors who where there is no sense of responsibility or accountability for what people say and the potential impact of this. #healthymind #health #healthy #wellbeing #wellness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalwellbeing #lifestyle #womenshealth #healthylifestyle #healthymindhealthybody #bodyshaming #bodyneutrality #wednesday #wednesdaythoughts
  17. T I P S T O C O P E | feeling anxious? Struggling to work out why or keep on top of things? Here are my top tips that I use in clinic 1️⃣complete your day in the life of exercise, what is your baseline and how has it changed. Start to keep a mood diary, even if this is only for a few days,are there any clear triggers or patterns? 2️⃣think lifestyle factors, cut out caffeine even if it is just a cup a day, reduce your alcohol consumption and knock those energy drinks on the head 3️⃣ clean up your sleep. Go to bed the same time each night and wake up the same time each morning, even on a weekend. Practice this every night for a couple of weeks, be consistent and you will see a difference 4️⃣incorporate some regular exercise into your day whether it is a walk around the block, a PE class or a gym workout. 5️⃣practice some mindfulness. I share ideas on deep breathing, square breathing and focusing on your senses particularly if you are experiencing a panic attack 6️⃣put together an anxiety toolbox. Sometimes in the heat of the moment, when you are feeling anxious it is hard to think about what helps de-stress you and makes you feel calm, a toolbox creates a good go-to for this 7️⃣ invest in a fidget toy, a stress ball or even some bubble wrap to have to hand to channel some of that nervous energy 8️⃣ book an appointment with yourself. Make sure you schedule in time out for yourself. Being busy has become a badge of honour and an unhelpful one at that.9️⃣Try out a traffic light at home or score your anxiety 🔟 if your anxiety persists and is getting in the way of your family, friendships and working life or if you are finding you are managing your anxiety with alcohol, drugs or via self harm and/or are experiencing suicidal ideation due to difficulties in coping, it is time to seek urgent support from a trained health care professional so that you can be assessed. #anxiety #stress #anxietymanagement #healthymind #health #healthy #wellbeing #wellness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalwellbeing #lifestyle #healthylifestyle #lifestyle #healthymindhealthybody #tuesday #tuesdaymotivation
  18. F E E L I N G A N X I O U S | we all feel anxious now and again. I certainly have in the last 24hrs and is often the case for a first day of my holiday as I frantically ruminate over the things I needed to do before going away..feeling nervous, butterflies in overdrive in your tummy, feeling sick anyone?But I know that feeling will pass. Sometimes feeling anxious can be quite helpful, remember that driving test or that interview date. Feeling anxious in the lead up to something can force us to prepare and focus. However in some cases, anxiety for others can be a disabling cluster of symptoms. It affects some to such a degree that they actually avoid doing things. They may isolate themselves from loved ones. They may find it too challenging to walk out of the front door each morning to go places that others wouldn't think twice over. Even school or work may be an issue. It may also start to affect their mood and they may feel quite depressed. In a post to follow I will share ways that we all can use to manage our anxiety. But for now if you are worried that you or someone you care about is experiencing anxiety that is impacting on day to day life, book an appointment with the GP. #anxiety #butterflies #stress #panic #mentalhealth #mentalwellness #mentalwellbeing #mentalhealthawareness #wellbeing #wellness #tuesday #tuesdaymood #healthymind #healthymindandbody #health #healthy #lifestyle #mind #mindfulness #mindset
  19. A N O T H E R D A Y | another event announcement. So honoured to be a part of @tallyrye Best Me Seasonal Series events. Join us as @tallyrye starts things off with a workout, followed by a seasonal 2 course brunch by @cerikitchen and then a mental wellbeing workshop by yours truly @themindmedic WHEN? April 6th TIME? 10am - 2pm WHERE? @benkandbo To book tickets @replenishyou swipe up in my stories. Hope you can join us. #replenishyou #healthymind #health #healthy #wellbeing #wellness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalwellbeing #lifestyle #womenshealth #healthylifestyle #healthymindhealthybody #sunday #sundaynight
  20. E V E N T | Excited to announce I am on a FREE panel event with these wonderful ladies and fellow medics @drzoewilliams @anjalimahto @gynaegeek hosted by @dr.chris.george  talking about the science behind wellness covering general health, lifestyle, skin, women’s health and mental health. WHEN?Tuesday 19th March TIME? 8pm WHERE? @lululemonuk @lululemon Regent St. WHY? Have you ever wondered if the health advice you’ve been given online is correct? Wellness is confusing and constantly changing. Every day, we’re bombarded with influencer advice, latest products and programs through social media. The problem? Most often, there is absolutely no proof behind these statements, or, these online personalities are not qualified. Join an expert panel of doctors to discover the evidence behind the advice you’ve always wanted to know and dispel wellness fake news. Swipe up to tickets available in my story! #healthymind #health #healthy #wellbeing #wellness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalwellbeing #lifestyle #lululemon #healthylifestyle #healthymindhealthybody #saturday
  21. B U Y | Written by a Consultant Psychiatrist (🙋🏻)Specialising in Child and Adolescent Mental Health. Tag someone you know who might find this helpful; because we should all feel confident in spotting when someone is struggling emotionally and how best to manage it in those early stages. There is a lot of misinformation on the internet and worryingly there is a wave of acquiring information and advice from unreliable and unqualified sources. There are a number of ways you can pick up a copy of my book: a paperback copy from @amazonuk @waterstones @whsmithofficial , a digital version on @amazonkindle or an audio version on @itunes for only £4! Be more confident in spotting signs when a child or young person may be struggling with their emotional or mental health and know how best to act in those crucial early stages. Within the book, I share my mnemonic face fear and my mental health traffic lights. As always, if you pick up a copy, do make sure to leave a review. #healthymind #health #healthy #wellbeing #wellness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalwellbeing #lifestyle #childmentalhealth #healthylifestyle #healthymindhealthybody #childhealth #mumsofinsta #dadsofinstagram #parentingishard #teacher #thursday #thursdaymorning
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DEPRESSION WEARS LIPPY: I can never quite believe it everytime I see the hashtag #DepressionWearsLippy used. I love it when you share it. The campaign was created to try and help break down the stigma surrounding what those with mental health conditions look like. To try and show that mental health conditions can and do affect so many of us. 1 in 4 in fact. And it touches every race, every religion, every class, every social demographic, every personality type, every age. It doesn't discriminate, so neither should we. Please keep using the hashtag and help me break the stigma one tiny step at a time! #depressionwearslippy #depressionawareness #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthinfluencer #mentalhealth #mentalwellness #mentalwellbeing #mentalhealthawareness #healthymind #mum #dad #womenshealth #menshealth #childhealth #wednesday #humpday #health #healthy
  23. P I C K U P | this month’s @womenshealthuk magazine. Eva O’Connor shares a powerful piece detailing her 4 year battle with anorexia nervosa and I shed light on the condition in my monthly expert column. #edaw #eatingdisorderawareness #mentalhealthawareness #mentalwellbeing #eatingdisorderawarenessweek #eatingdisorderawarenessweek2019 #healthymind #wellness #wellbeing #anorexia #bulimia #ednos #tuesday #tuesdaythoughts
  24. E D A W 2 0 1 9 | today marks the start of #edaw19 There still remains many misconceptions of what an eating disorder ‘looks’ like. For many, we are familiar with anorexia nervosa which is commonly portrayed in media, in print or on screen but did you know an eating disorder can exist in other ways too. It can affect BOTH men and women.On the surface someone can appear to be of ‘healthy’ weight but be battling body/shape weight concerns on the inside. They may be over-exercising, making themselves sick, bingeing frequently, creating a million and one rules that dictate how, what and when they should be eating. They may be hiding months of not having a period (just one of the many physical effects of having an eating disorder)1.6 million people in the UK alone  are currently struggling with an eating disorder; 10% anorexia, 40% bulimia and the remaining 50% an eating disorder not otherwise specified. That is why I am getting behind @beatedsupport @phelanwelll #anybodycangetaned Anybody can struggle with their relationship with food. #edaw #eatingdisorderawareness #mentalhealthawareness #mentalwellbeing #eatingdisorderawarenessweek #eatingdisorderawarenessweek2019 #healthymind #wellness #wellbeing #anorexia #bulimia #ednos #monday #mondaymood
  25. C O M M U N I C A T E | How do you #facefear of having a conversation with someone you are worried about. There is the fear of saying the wrong thing, what if I make them clam up? What if I make things worse? I have developed an easy to use mnemonic/aide memoire to help anyone who has concerns about someone else's emotional/mental health have a structure to your conversation rather than it feel like a flurry of uncontained panic.Not sure how to broach them? First and foremost, think FACE. 
F IS FOR FACE TO FACE. Do you have opportunity to speak to the person face to face about your concerns? 
A IS FOR BEING ATTENTIVE, make sure you listen to what the person is telling you. Ask them a question? Then listen to the response they give - don't talk over them. 
C IS FOR CALM. Keep calm. Easier said than done but you need to instil confidence in that person that you can take on whatever they throw at you and that you won't crumble under the pressure. 
E IS ENTER THE SITUATION. 
Then FEAR 
State the FACTS (f is for facts). Tell them what you have noticed. 
E IS FOR EXPLAIN. This is where you come in. This is your chance to explain why this worries you. The key bit when explaining is to point out to them why this is different from before. It is all well and good saying they seem quiet, but explaining it in the context of ‘you seem really quiet, normally I can’t get you to be quiet’ really highlights the change. 
A IS AGREE AN ACTION this is where you both come together to decide on what to do about your (possibly shared) concerned. ‘If things don’t get better in a couple of days, shall we go to the GP or will you book an appointment in to see them’. We do this subconsciously with ourselves anyway when we are physically unwell. If this rash doesn’t clear by the end of the week, I will go see someone. 
R IS FOR REVIEW if you agree an action, make sure you stick to it. This is holding you and them accountable that if things don't improve you move on to access support sooner. #facefear #mentalhealth #mentalwellbeing #wellbeing #wellness #healthymind #mind #lifestyle #healthylifestyle #friday #letstalk #fridaymood
  26. R E A L I T Y | as much as fashion houses may turn a blind eye, cite that mental health is nothing to do with them or that it is just ‘fashion dahling’ the reality is the lack of diversity sets up unrealistic expectations to impressionable young boys and girls. This @dailymail headline does not surprise me this morning. I deal with the realities of self harm in young girls and women (boys and young men) daily. I hear why they do it, what exacerbates it and how it can impact their day to day life including school, college, university, work and in some cases tear relationships and families apart and stuff like this IS triggering for them. It. Is. Serious. There needs to be some accountability from everyone in shaping future generations. It is not about shielding the from the ill in the world but seriously what are we coming to when the model to the left was declared too big to walk?! #mentalhealth #mentalwellness #mentalwellbeing #mentalhealthawareness #healthymind #mum #dad #womenshealth #menshealth #childhealth #healthymindhealthybody #wellness #motherhood #fatherhood #mumlife #dadsofinstagram #healthblog #healthymind #mind #healthy #blogger #parent #lifestyle #wellbeing #socialmediabreak #socialmedia #dailymail #friday #fridaymood
  27. T I M E O F T H E M O N T H | would you believe it if I told you that this is something that I commonly see in clinic? 30% of young girls and women experience PMS/PMT. PMT or Pre-Menstrual Tension often gets a bad rep, least of all because it is often seen by others around us as an 'excuse' for being overly emotional, swinging moods or losing our cool. But PMT can actually seriously affect the mental wellbeing of young girls and women going through it and put pressure on the relationships around them, family or friendships and can even impact their school or working life. Symptoms may typically start 1-2 weeks before they are due on. Most of the girls I see describe fluctuating mood, becoming tearful often over something very trivial, some may lose their cool easily and at worst become fairly aggressive. Some may struggle with their sleep and experience tiredness in the day. Some of the girls may actually experience fully fledged depression and anxiety symptoms for that period of time - low mood, no enjoyment, no energy, no motivation and in severe cases thoughts of not wanting to be alive or engaging in self harming behaviour; this often falls under the more severe form of PMS which we refer to as PMDD or Pre-Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder. Symptoms then typically settle once your period starts. I will share some top tips for helping PMS symptoms in a post to follow but in the meantime if your PMS symptoms are seriously getting in the way of you carrying on your day to day life then book an appointment to see your GP. Bring along a record of your PMS symptoms for the last 3-6 months; when do they typically start, how do you feel, how does it affect your activities that day and how long does it go on for? #pms #pmt #mentalhealth #mentalwellbeing #wellbeing #wellness #healthymind #healthymindhealthybody #health #healthy #mind #mindfulness #mum #mothersofinstagram #healthylifestyle #lifestyle #childhealth #mentalhealthawareness #thursday #thursdaythoughts #womenshealth
  28. A P P A L L I N G | absolutely horrified by @burberry essentially glamourising suicide. How on earth this was felt to be appropriate I will never understand? The number of people and so called ‘creatives’ this idea must have been run past and not one (apart from one model @liz.kennedy_ who shared that it was triggering for her due to a family history of suicide) chose (or were too ignorant) to speak out. Just when I think we are finally starting to make waves with mental health in this country, we move two steps back. Disgusting. #mentalhealth #mentalwellness #mentalwellbeing #mentalhealthawareness #healthymind #mum #dad #womenshealth #menshealth #childhealth #burberry #healthymindhealthybody #wellness #motherhood #fatherhood #mumlife #dadsofinstagram #healthblog #healthymind #mind #healthy #blogger #parent #lifestyle #wellbeing #socialmediabreak #socialmedia #scrollfree #wednesday #humpday
  29. F E A R O F M I S S I N G O U T |  ever feel that you are always saying yes to things even if you know mentally or physically your body can't take it? Ever find yourself constantly scrolling through your umpteen social media accounts or people's instastories and feeling inadequate or that on some level you are missing out in some way? Even children I see will take their phone to bed, be on it until the early hours of the morning, keep the volume of their phone on so if it beeps in the night they can reply straight away!Sound familiar? I have thought about this sense of FOMO for a while - the reality is that on some level we all have to miss out on something. Every decision we make may be at the expense of another. We can't go to every single party that is going on in the world. We can't be friends with every single person we meet. We can't eat at all the restaurants in the world. These are just some examples but there are plenty of more. I suppose the message to glean from this is to make decisions for yourself. The time and energy you expend fearing that you are missing out on something can be spent elsewhere. #fomo #fearofmissingout #energy #learntosayno #switchoff #lookafteryourself #energy #wellness #wellbeing #mentalhealth #mentalwellbeing #healthymind #healthymindandbody #lifestyle #healthylifestyle #mind #wednesday #wednesdaymotivation #humpday
  30. S E T B O U N D A R I E S | social media -a blessing and a curse. I regularly hear about the negative impact that social media has to play on someone's mental health. I routinely see people who describe how scrolling through their social media feed has at some point triggered thoughts of inadequacy and fuelled low self worth. Viewing 'perfect life' after 'perfect life' led them to question the value of their own. The fact is that we are all in control of our own feed, the curator of our own content. Social media only ever allows a snapshot of someone's life and the result, we only showcase the positives (that dreaded highlight reel). Continuing to follow such accounts will only confound those feelings. The solution? 1️⃣Unfollow those accounts that lead to you questioning your self worth or value. It is one thing to be inspired and motivated by an account and its content but quite another to feel intimidated and unworthy. 2️⃣Stop the mindless scrolling. You know the times when your watching TV, shovelling your dinner down? Instead schedule in your social media time as bursts throughout the day. 3️⃣ Avoid the social media wake up alarm. Stop reaching for your phone and scrolling through your socials as soon as you get up. Chances are that if you come across an image or caption that makes you feel inadequate first thing in the morning, it will set the tone for the rest of your day. Instead? Do something positive for yourself when you first get up. Treat yourself to a decent breakfast, a nice coffee, take your time to get ready unplugged.4️⃣ Still struggling? Think about taking an extended social media holiday.Delete the apps from your phone to avoid temptation or temporarily inactivate accounts. #mentalhealth #mentalwellness #mentalwellbeing #mentalhealthawareness #healthymind #mum #dad #womenshealth #menshealth #childhealth #healthymindhealthybody #wellness #motherhood #fatherhood #mumlife #dadsofinstagram #healthblog #healthymind #mind #healthy #blogger #parent #lifestyle #wellbeing  #socialmediabreak #socialmedia #scrollfree #tuesday #tuesdaymotivation
  31. S P O T T E D | when your secretary spots you in the weekend papers and you’re completely oblivious...thanks to @dailymail for featuring me in your Blog Me Better segment in yesterday’s paper. And on my birthday no less! #healthymind #health #healthy #wellbeing #wellness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalwellbeing #lifestyle #healthylifestyle #healthymindhealthybody #childhealth #mumsofinsta #dadsofinstagram #parentingishard #teacher #the5sensesplan #mondaymorning #mondaymood
  32. A N D S O I T S T A R T S | ever feel like Monday morning rolls round too quick? You have barely pressed reset and before you know it you are back at the start of the working week? Perhaps you are stuck in a job you hate or maybe you have a child who is struggling at school academically or socially? It is not uncommon for individuals I see to have Monday mornings filled with dread. You may be struggling to concentrate, falling behind with your tasks at work. Perhaps you don't actually understand what is being taught or asked of you. It may be that anxiety symptoms are getting in the way of you communicating your difficulties to the teacher or your employer or HR dept?You may be struggling in the playground with your peers socially or with colleagues in and out of the boardroom. Maybe it is someone else you are worried about?You have guessed something is up but you suspect they find it difficult to verbalise it to you. You may have seen my feed previously light up with the colours of the traffic light. I find this particularly helpful to start to get a sense of when and how often your child or colleague sits with a difficulty (red) It translates well in an office environment whether it is having communal coloured tokens or agreeing a 'code' for an individual employee. Test it out. Agree what each of the colours stand for. Get everyone in the household or in the office involved. Finding that the red persists routinely come Monday morning or finding that all your colleagues have put a red token in at the end of the weekly number crunching meeting makes a practical conversation starter. Want more information, click on my traffic light video within my Instagram TV. #healthymind #health #healthy #wellbeing #wellness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalwellbeing #lifestyle #healthylifestyle #healthymindhealthybody #childhealth #mumsofinsta #dadsofinstagram #parentingishard #teacher #the5sensesplan #mondaymorning #mondaymood